In loving memory of Tony Manuera Peno Coyne who sadly passed away on 18th March 2018
COYNE Tony Manuera Peno
Originally from New Plymouth New Zealand, however, late of Calico Creek Queensland
Tony was taken from us in a work related accident on Sunday 18th March 2018 at the time Tony was just 43 years of age.
Tony leaves behind his heart broken parents Graham and the late Irene and stepson of Lauraine, loving children Danny and Kale. Furthermore, Tony leaves the love of his life and fiancée Natasha.
Tony will forever be remembered for his cheeky ways and his wicked sense of humour and laughter.
Tony will be flying back to his home land New Zealand on Qantas flight QF123 Departing Brisbane at 08:15 on Friday 23rd March 2018. Tony’s flight will arrive in Auckland at approximately 14:30 where he will be reunited with his family for the journey to his final resting place in the Okato Cemetery.
Unless You Have Lost A Child
Don’t ask us if we are over it yet. We’ll never be over it.
A part of us died with our child.
Don’t tell us they are in a better place. They are not with us where they belong
Don’t say at least they are not suffering.
We haven’t come to terms with why they suffered at all.
Don’t tell us at least we have other children.
Which one of your children would you have sacrificed?
Don’t ask us if we feel better. Bereavement isn’t a condition that clears up.
Don’t tell us at least we had our child for so many seconds or years.
What second or year would your choose for your child to die?
Don’t avoid us. We don’t have a contagious disease, just unbearable pain.
Don’t tell us you know how we feel, unless you have lost a child.
No other loss can compare to losing a child.
It’s not the natural order of things.
Don’t take our anger personally.
We don’t know who we are angry at or why and lash out at those closest to us.
Don’t whisper behind us when we enter a room. We are in pain, but not deaf.
Don’t stop calling us after the initial loss.
Our grief does not stop there and we need to know others are thinking of us.
Don’t be offended when we don’t return your calls right away.
We take each moment as it comes and some are worse than others.
Don’t tell us to get on with our lives.
We each grieve differently and in our own time frame.
Grief cannot be governed by a clock or calendar
Don’t say sorry. We’d rather hear nothing, than clichés you don’t mean.
Do put your arms around us and hold us.
We need your strength to get us through the day.
Do say you remember our child, if you do.
Memories are all we have left and we cherish them.
Do let us talk about our child.
Our child lived and still lives in our hearts, forever.
Do mention our child’s name.
It will not make us sad or hurt our feelings. Do let us cry.
Crying is an important part of the grief process. Cry with us if you want to.
Do remember us on special dates.
Our child’s birth date, death date and holidays are a very lonely and difficult time for us without our child.
Do send cards on these dates saying you remember our child. We do
Do show our family that you care.
Sometimes we forget to do that in our own pain.
Do be thankful for children.
Nothing hurts us worse than seeing other people in pain.